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|Thu, 05-28-2009 - 12:40pm|
My H works with OW. They have to see each other every day. I literally panic when I think about her at work. I think she must get all made up in the morning and put on her skimpiest outfit to seduce him. (I'm not sure if that's true. But I can't help what comes into my mind.)
Since D Day #2 he's been very open and honest (and doesn't get frustrated) when I ask questions about OW or about events during his day. This helps a little. But I still don't trust him completely and so some stories just make me angrier. Any time her name is mentioned I tense up.
I HATE that there can't be a clean break between them. I'm not making excuses or anything- but if they weren't working together everyday maybe there wouldn't have been a D Day #2. If she wasn't right there in front of him telling him how depressed she is maybe he would have focused more on me.
This woman is VERY manipulative and uses everything at her disposal to get what she wants. She lies. She throws herself pity parties. She makes herself the center of attention so people will listen to her "version" of the truth.
I just don't know how to deal with this. I don't trust my H. And I don't trust the OW. Together they are lethal to our marriage!
For those of you who have to deal with your H or W seeing the OW or OM often, how do you deal with it? Are there any special "rules" that you have because they have to see each other so often?
Thank you for your advice and support.