If you have read my story you know that I am not only dealing with the A but the death of my Mom (Mar 13 2010) and up to a week ago I was taking care of his 95 year old Great Aunt who has dementia. On top of all of that I am dealing with his resentment over me asking him to give up his best friend who is female. He doesn't understand why (even though I have explained it to him numerous times) because she has nothing to do with the A.
As far as the coffee and dinner go he has stated that these are things that make him feel loved. He does ask that I have a pot of coffee made when he gets home from work but he says he doesn't expect it.