I feel like my head is going to explode!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2009
I feel like my head is going to explode!
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 5:10pm

Oh god oh god Im just not having a great day today!!!

We have been trying to rebuild things and this week was going great i even stayed over at H house for a few days then bam! two things happened!!!

Firstly unrelated kind of I went to doctors and found out I need to go to hospital they suspect i may have skin cancer which im terrified about.............im living away from home and my only real support in this country is my ex! I dont want to worry my mum. He has been quite supportive to be fair i dont think he knew what to say.

Secondly the girl that he slept with was on one of the pages of his social networking site now it wasnt his fault she was there as i have had people on that i dont want on there its just something i know that happens but

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 8:13pm

he is seriously deluded to be calling this person his soulmate (fantasy)she is a backstabber too
if he was really repentant he would quit the social networking site all together
peace and strength to you
do not let your own health suffer, he is probably really messed up in the head (most of these WS are) and it is no reflection on you
his values are not akin to yours he may come around in time and realize what he has in you and he may not and stay in lala land

for me it helps to tell myself that my husband is not the person that I thought he was plain and simple so if things go south again I am not missing out on anything in fact I would probably find relief because I am at the point of ENOUGH

from my experience and seeing what happens on this site the WS usually does not change until the BS has had their limit and is ready to walk or kick them out - until then (as they can sense the change in you) they keep thinking that they can continue escaping reality via their fantasy - no responsibility, new, fun - greener grass

it has been 3 years now for me and only the last 6 months have I felt like we are on track and have hope of aligned values and respect

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2008
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 8:34pm

I'm so sorry, Irishlady!