I feel really stupid!

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Registered: 05-26-2009
I feel really stupid!
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Sat, 06-20-2009 - 11:16pm

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 06-20-2009 - 11:57pm
No your not crazy. It's not so easy to give up a marriage when children are involved. I think if you do decide to stay with him you have to tell him what YOUR rules are for you to stay. Such as #1 MC #2 No going out drinking unless you are with him. #3 No female friends (unless they are maybe couples that you trust) that you see together. And whatever else you decide you need to stay. Only you can decide whether there is enough love and trust left to stay in the marriage. If you really feel like you are going to have to watch him like a hawk though is it worth it?
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 3:20pm
Oh, MOST OF US have spouses who continue to say they love us and yet are cheating.

 

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Registered: 05-26-2009
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 5:51pm
Yes, he has been on meds,and believe me, me and the kids no if he has stopped taking it for awhile. I guess it's just my heart that makes me second guess because if I were to write down the craziness this man has put me through in our 21 years that alone would make everyone say and have said "Girl you should of left him a long time ago" but easier said then done. I did kick him out a month ago,he is living in a basement of a friends house,he has come over every weekend to pick his son up and go do something,I said to him yesterday,WOW it's pretty sad when you think about it,you have done more with your son in the past month than you have in the entire year,his response was,you don't think I thought about that and my response was,I really have no clue what goes through your head. What makes me really angry is that I actually hate hurting HIS feelings,can you believe that?! The man didn't give a s*#t about my feelings and here I still care about his,that's why I think I'm going crazy. I know I must stay focused & strong and think with my head not my heart.
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Registered: 11-15-2008
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 7:23am

My stbx left for OW 2 years ago, and still weekly I will get a text from him saying how i'm his world, his life and that he loves me, always has and always will!