I'm so nervous!

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Registered: 08-25-2009
I'm so nervous!
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Fri, 09-04-2009 - 12:45pm

Today is 4 weeks since DD. I'm seeing the counselor today and I'm so nervous about what to say and I'm also nervous that bringing this up with make me angry again or sad. I told H about that and he said we'd deal with it.

The last week has been good and bad but we are talking. I got the book 'Getting Past the Affair'. We are going to work through it together. I asked him the other night and then handed it to him the next morning. He read a bit and got quiet. I asked him what he thought, he said he though a lot of things but he didn't like how it made him feel. I said that he would have to face it and he said he didn't say he wasn't willing to face it, just that it would be hard. My assumption there.

So today I see the counselor and H said he'd see how my session went and then he may go. I told him it would be good to talk to someone neutral. So we are making progress.

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Fri, 09-04-2009 - 4:03pm

Good for you!

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Registered: 08-25-2009
Fri, 09-04-2009 - 5:01pm

It went well, I feel so better for having talked to him! He asked me questions as I went a long, somethings I didn't have answer for but would find out. How I felt about certain aspects, helped me focus more of my feelings or gauge where I was.

I said I was one of those people that can think globally about the whole picture (not just my own inner turmoil) and not just focus on the anger and resentment and that I was mentally very healthy in how i was dealing/handling everything. It made me feel so much better. I was worried that I was being too pleasing or wrong word, too fix-it. I do look it all all angles. And I like that about myself, so I should feel good about that.

I have a test ahead of me too! Next week I'm out of town for 3 nights traveling. Part of me is very nervous and worried that I'll obsess and the other part of me is thinking I will enjoy some non-husband, non-children thing. I hope I do!

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Registered: 08-01-2008
Fri, 09-04-2009 - 9:53pm
I just wanted to say I am so happy to hear things are going well with the counselor and that your H seems to be willing to explore all the options available to help you both heal and move on! I hope you enjoy your time away do some extra special stuff for yourself and try not to worry. You deserve a little stress free time.. Hugs Gal