Intimacy after D-day...

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Registered: 01-11-2010
Intimacy after D-day...
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Wed, 01-27-2010 - 9:28pm

How long was it, or did you choose to wait, before being intimate again with your H, after D-day?

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Wed, 01-27-2010 - 10:35pm

I choose to continue with the intimacy.

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Wed, 01-27-2010 - 11:45pm
how do you not feel like your just doing it too keep him... he rolls over.. and your just lying there ,thinking about .. how could he have done this with someone else.. i know intamicy is important..but how do you know the difference.. don't want to use it as a power play
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Registered: 01-07-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 12:54am

Before DH and I were intimate with each other after D-day, I had a couple of days of "If you want to please me, I will permit you to do that, but I'm not ready to reciprocate." I think it was a real sign of his willingness to do, truly, whatever I wanted in order to increase his chances of being forgiven. Plus, it was a tremendous confidence booster that he'd rather please me than be pleased by someone else.

Like you've already heard, everyone is different. My circumstances are different than most in that there was no back-and-forth. The A started and ended while my DH was out of town for almost 3 months on business.

And he does NOT roll over now when it's done, not that he ever did. I'm usually the first one to move because I hate a "wet spot."

If your DH is truly remorseful about his actions, he'll be grateful to have his wife back, even in small increments until you're ready to give him all of you again.

Good luck.

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 10:39am

Ruby,


I chose to make good use of the limited 2 days we had for intimacy.

 

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Registered: 01-11-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:57pm

underacloud - what do you mean by a limited two days?


Being intimate with H is something I'm struggling with right now.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 7:45pm

Pamom,


how do you not feel like your just doing it too keep him...


I told him that he was free to leave if he wished, but if he choose to stay then we would be fixing the issues. He kept saying that his plan was never

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 11:41am

I can't say that I wasn't