intimacy after infidelity

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Registered: 12-19-2009
intimacy after infidelity
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Sat, 12-19-2009 - 9:50pm

I found out Oct 4 that my husband had been having an affair for 2 years with a very much younger girl.

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Registered: 12-20-2009
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 1:44pm
I just did it.
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Registered: 06-18-2008
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 6:46pm

soon after, i was all over him- like i had to prove to myself that he was really with me... after that hyper sex stuff, i freaked

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 9:55pm
I felt like I HAD to - and again as with above, it had to be every day or twice a day - actually I found out months later that it was because I wanted to have more sex than they did for the past 9 months of skulking around in cars, parking lots, and work rooms.... I guess I wanted to 'cover it up' much like a cat marks it's territory. I don't feel that need anymore, but my need is still greater I think ........ My marraige counselor says people only change in two ways - the two T's he calls them, Trauma or Therapy - you've already gotten the Trauma, I suggest therapy, there are many low cost options around, call a help line or crisis center and ask.