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|Sun, 10-09-2011 - 5:21pm|
After 4 years of struggling with multiple issues, I find myself in a difficult situation this evening.
I've had weird feelings(call it woman's intuition) about my H and another woman. I could go into details, but they're all things you've read or experienced. There is nothing blatant about what's going on: nothing I could use to prove that something is between them, but every ounce of my "intuition" is screaming at me!
So one problem is that I don't really trust this screaming! I was married to my H for 21 years while he lead a secret life, and I was clueless. Then he lied, lied, lied and I believed him even when my intuition told me there was something wrong. So now I don't trust myself with such things.
So in a few minutes here I'm going to confront him about this relationship. If there's something going on and he tells me, then that's a game changer. I found out about everything else years after the fact, and I can't live with it going on now. If there's nothing going on, or there is and he lies, then I have to admit that my feelings are totally screwed up. I'm paranoid and my radar is broken.
Honestly I don't know how I'm going to get through this.
I thought about texting her, but that's probably a lose/lose too. If she admits stuff, at least I would know, but if she doesn't then I'm right back to square one. Plus is there really is nothing, then I may harm a relatively innocent work relationship.
...well he's home, so here goes nothing. Wish me luck!