Loss

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Registered: 01-16-2008
Loss
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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 10:50pm

horrible situation

trying since 06 despite at least 3 affairs

laid hands on me for the first time symbolically pushed and around my throat

he hates my 13 year old son and admitted it to me

told me I was a horrible mother and he did not want me to raise his son

all while I work 12 hours a day and do at least 60% of the cleaning

he has mentioned the wrong thought in passing of comminting suicide and taking his son with him

(to spare him the pain)

he tried to commit suicide the morning he was supposed to be gone for an hour at a friends house and ended up 'hanging out' with a girl he recently admitted to kissing in the past even though he knows this is not ok with me

oh by the way she is 'disgusting' according to him - red flag from other posters here it seems

he is being treated with lithim and several other drugs right now and for some reason thought he would be coming back here

how can it be more apparent it is over

how is there any choice for me

to continue to participate in this marriage where the "sex sucks" (he said this to me though I cannot disagree) emotional abuse and disrespect are second nature

I am so sad

 

 

 

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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: ollie2008
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 12:42pm

Hugs goddess!  You have always given others such good advice I know you have a good head on your shoulders.  Please take care of yourself, we are all praying for you and sending good vibes.

Ollie

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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: pater_familia
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 11:31am

goddess_whoami

Sending good vibes. You really have your hands full. Chin up. 

Tom 

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Registered: 01-16-2008
In reply to: goddess_whoami
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 5:38pm

Thank you Pater

Yes, he is in a psychiatric ward for trying to kill himself just days ago

the attorney is going to take time ($$$) a quick divorce would not get me the safety of and security I need from a real attorney (mine quoted me $750.00 and she is worth every pennie)

thank you very much for your reply

 

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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: goddess_whoami
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 1:04pm
If nobody else is telling you this. This isn't ok behavior. You shouldn't live like this. Have you considered getting an attorney? A man who is considering taking his son with him, and says as much, should not have access to that child.

My wife's little sister's recent ex-husband killed himself just this year with a shotgun. If they are talking about it. They might just do it.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.