new hurdle-trust when he's on the road

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2009
new hurdle-trust when he's on the road
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Sat, 01-30-2010 - 5:12pm

I haven't posted since early Dec. when H and I had a set-back.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2008
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 11:34pm

I'd have a hard time with that, too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 10:33pm
yaknow I just went through this myself
he went to school got his cdl, and i was at the point where i actually believed he was doing it for all the right reasons and trusted him as much as one can after betrayal anyhow
i checked his cell phone records online we spoke a few times a day
i was ok with the time alone it was kinda nice
he however started to get homesick and really loose it
he did not last a month on the road
now we have a large bill for the school - we are behind on everything since we put all we had into this idea and he really was not getting paid for the school etc.
he did find a job a very good one the kind he said he could not find here
use the time to get yourself together - he will have to worry just as much about you yaknow? you will have much free time and opportunity for anything
you just have to do your best and keep those senses sharp
we thought for sure he was gonna do this for a year minimum that was the plan and we both were committed to it
you sure don't know until it really happens
he may gain a deeper appreciation for the simple things like sleeping with you at night
my husband did
good luck and you keep him on HIS toes
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 12:34am

Thanks for the response and sorry it has taken me so long to get back (since H has our computer, it's not often I can get on).

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 12:47am

Thanks for your reply!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 2:04am
It doesn't matter so much where he is, it's available anywhere, anytime - across the country, across the street, same thing.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2008
Fri, 02-26-2010 - 1:09am
my H also travels- like every other week he is gone for a few days at a time. we are about 1-1/2 years out from d-day, and all i can say is that i've grown kind of numb to it. someone else pointed out that you can't make him not cheat, and i think that's the main think to remember. lots of people on here have spouses that cheated right under their noses and in their own cities (mine included). so although travel makes a painful situation even more sensitive, at some point you just have to be a fatalist and know in your heart that either he will or he won't. and on the upside, i can honestly say that after a lot of travel, my H is happy to be home and he appreciates what he misses on the road. i used to think that i had to be like the perfect june cleaver wife whenever he was here so that he would prefer it, but believe me that is not the case :) anyway, i hope your H will never ever stray again no matter what job he has! i also just keep telling myself to be grateful that H has any hjob at all in this economy. sorry i don't have anything great to say, but i know sometimes it juts helps to know you are not alone. stay strong- NN