No longer afraid to him how I feel
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|Sat, 04-04-2009 - 10:54am|
I got so angry this morning at my H. I didn't care that he had to work. He told me he still wonders how the OW is doing(she lost her job) and is concerned about her. I used to be afraid w/the 1st affair to tell him how upset I was b/c I was afraid he'd leave me. Now ,I don't care! I told him I've been suffering for so many years and you're concerned about the OW? I told him I'll work on this marriage ,but you have to let me vent when I need to ,not when it's convenient for you to listen! I think I put things into perspective for him!
I told him I don't know how I will be intimate w/him if he still thinks of her. Of course, I have read that his feelings about the AP are normal and this is what they go thru especially if it was a long term relationship.
He wasn't defensive and showed some empathy,so I felt better. That's a first- he never showed any empathy w/the 1st affair.Maybe there's hope.