OW called police on me!
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|Tue, 06-16-2009 - 2:03pm|
So yesterday, OW called H. Its been a week since his NC eMail. She called under the guise of 'my son had to go to the ER so I just had to tell you... oh and let's talk about why you're breaking up with me' wah, wah, blah blah. :rolls eyes:
H made the mistake of not telling me she called... at least not right away.
Here's how it went down:
H comes home and gets into the shower, leaves his phone out in the open. It rings with a text message that says:
"I need more than that lame goodbye. We deserve more than that. No goodbye would be good for me, though."
I accepted the text and of course my heart started beating so hard I couldn't breathe. Then! she calls, too. I miss the call, but I call her back and say:
"Stop calling my husband, you B****. I am serious. If you don't stop calling, I will stop by your home to let you know how serious I am."
She responds with: "Okay, you go ahead and do that. I'll show you how serious I am too."
Not five minutes later (H is still in shower) she calls again and I let it go to VM. Her voicemail says something to the effect of "your wife is crazy. Tell her that if she ever threatens my family again I'm going to file a complaint and get a restraining order."
H gets out of shower and I inform him of her calls and texts. I ask him if he spoke with her earlier and he says yes. He says she called his cell and tried to talk to him about her life, her son, etc and he told her again that he doesn't want her to call and that it was over. Forever.
Now, I was really angry with H because he was not supposed to answer her calls. He apologized said that I had been crying and sad all day and had told him earlier that I was just so done (yes, that part of the rollercoaster) and he said he didn't tell me she called right away because of how upset I already was. He admitted it was wrong, but pointed out that her follow up text supported his story of what they had discussed on the phone...(breaking it off for good)
So, she calls AGAIN! I don't pick up, but I do text back:
"Take a hint. F off"
She texts back:
"You're a crazy bitch. No wonder (H) wants to leave your a$$"
At this point, I've had enough. So H and I erase her # and texts and VMs.
Ten minutes later I get a call from (her city) Police Dept! They give me a case # and the officers badge # and tell me that they'd just like to hear what the problem was, that OW called them to complain about me harassing her and threatening her life!
I told them she was seeing my H and H and I were trying to work things out, but she kept calling us. Actually, at first, I didn't believe that the officer calling was legit. I wouldn't put it past her to have a friend call and pretend to be an officer. But I checked the name and badge #.
I just don't know what to do. She was harassing us and I don't think what I said can be constituted as a real threat... maybe, maybe not. But, should I file a counter complaint? Just to have it on record? Or should I just let it go? I know I should have just ignored her from the start, but I had a really bad day yesterday and was being reactive.
Ugh, I just feel so... done. I am over feeling like this!