OW is getting married!!!

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Registered: 08-19-2008
OW is getting married!!!
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Fri, 05-29-2009 - 5:34am

Imagine me doing a happy dance as I'm typing this out.


Just

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me & hubby : 26 years old
married for 2.5 years, have a son 20 months old
d-day : August 06, 2008
rebuilding
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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 6:26am

Jane

First of all, I'm sooooo glad to see you post. I've been so worried about you. I was telling my spouse that a few people who had their D day close to ours had not written in a while and I was worried.

I hope now that she is getting married. You will stop trolling for her. Let her go sweetie. She has her own tangled mess now. She won't have time to think about your spouse. You get that man of yours to see you as a confident, intelligent, strong person who can take care of herself and her babies. If he can't take stand up and be a good person for you. Treat you like you're special in his life, it will be his loss.

I see you are in MC. I hope you are in personal therapy. I think at some point, MC is about fixing the other person, Individual therapy is about fixing ourselves. If we fix our own issues, then if he stays or goes, it won't matter. If we become healthy, we will be attractive.

Jane, You are a great chick and I miss you on the boards. But let that girl go. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Hate means you care. Indifference means you don't give a flip. Don't give that girl another second of your soul. It's just you and that little family of yours. Wrap every ounce of love, hate, joy and sorrow around them. Struggle with them from now on. Don't give that girl one second of a hoot anymore. OK. I'll do the same with my other men and lets just be silly happy with our families.

Having said that, I have a load of wash to fold and my workout ahead of me before the kids get up for their last day of school. Got to run.

I just think the world of you Jane. Keep your chin up.

Thomas

5 kids ages 15-9, D Day: August 5, 2008

Status: Figuring it out. Together.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Registered: 07-13-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 8:47am

Hey Pater--I was glad to see your post! I was thinking of you and hoping you and your W were doing great! Also I agree----the opposite of love is apathy----She needs to let the gal go---I have let mine go and I am a very stubborn irish gal--so it can be done!!And I am truly apathetic to her.


Have a wonderful time doing laundry--I am putting in another load and looking for my golf clubs and shoes!!!! Yeah --I love Fridays and Golf days!!!!