OWs H causing problems, do I intervene?
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|Thu, 05-07-2009 - 10:34pm|
So much has happened since I posted here, I can't go into everything now. H and I are back together in individual and joint counseling with our pastor and are committed to making this work. The OWs husband found out about the A not long ago and kicked her out of the house and is generally being very ugly towards her, using their children as pawns. I understand his need to hurt but I disagree with how he's doing it.
The OWs H came by my office the other day to give me his phone number in case I need anything. Like him to spy on my husband. I thanked him but said we were in counseling and looking forward and I wouldn't need his help. He admitted that he is telling anyone and everyone about their affair so everyone will know what kind of people they are and they will have no support system.
Should I, as the other man's wife, who has also been cheated on, ask him to stop what he's doing for my sake? It is hard to put this behind when people come up to you at functions and want to know the details. I miss my privacy but I really want no contact with either of them. I just wish he'd move on and let us do the same. Our conversations thus far have been friendly and civil. Should I call him?