Pros/Cons of H's Out of Town Work Opty

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Pros/Cons of H's Out of Town Work Opty
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Mon, 10-26-2009 - 6:07pm

My H hasn’t worked much since DDay 1-1/2 years ago.

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 4:18am
I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. IMO we belong with our spouse but this appears simply not possible. But it is short term!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 9:54am

I kinda got confused with the pro/con thing because towards the end your cons became pros. It looks like you have talked yourself into it and just aren't ready to say yes yet. Your reluctance could stem from a bit of resentment. Even now, you are having to rearrange your world to accommodate him and his issues. If he were a grown up, you wouldn't have to.

Is there a way that you could spend time at home and with him? Maybe be there the majority of the time, but be home one or two days a week in order to deal with any business issues your clients might have? Before you agree to anything, talk about how he would deal with his loneliness when you could not be with him. What strategies will he use?

This could be a good thing. It could turn into his opportunity to prove to you and himself that he has changed.

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 11:07pm

Thanks, ladies.