Restraining Order NOT GRANTED!!!

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Registered: 03-24-2009
Restraining Order NOT GRANTED!!!
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 10:53am

So, yesterday was the hearing for my H's restraining order against the OW. We had 4 pieces of evidence documenting her stalking & harrasment, including notes she left at our house & police reports. The judge denied the restraining order!

My H says that the OW went into court & lied to the judge, claiming that it is my H who calls & tries to come to her place. Which anybody in their right mind would not believe, if my H wanted contact with her, he would not be getting a restraining order against her.

The judge only advised my H and the OW not to contact each other again and that he was dropping the case.

In my mind, i think the Judge saw that my H was the lying, cheater in this case and that now he was trying to get rid of the OW by getting a restraining order. yet still, i am concerned that the OW will now begin to contact my H again.

Like i detailed in another post, I had never seen the OW until yesterday, she is nothing compared to me & it was so confusing to try to see how & why he would lower his standards to be with someone like that.

When i told him that thought, my H felt embarrassed and he tried to feed me

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Registered: 02-16-2009
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 3:08pm

I can't believe how people in authority can see in such black and white terms!!!

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Registered: 05-09-2008
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 9:07am
You might want to start documenting contact. Do you have caller ID can you track oncoming calls? Pictures of her driving by, write down her plate number etc. If you can document you can prove she is harassing you. You can also call the police and just let them know what she's doing.
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Registered: 04-12-2003
Mon, 04-06-2009 - 4:55pm

Mine was embarrassed of his OW when I actually saw them too.