Self Esteem issues

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Registered: 12-13-2005
Self Esteem issues
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 2:04pm

I've got a question for everybody. I found a website called www.selfesteem4women.com that allows you to purchase workbooks, etc. to help you with your self-esteem issues. The questionnaire (which helps you see what you need to work on) and the sign-up are free, but the workbooks cost between $15-20.

I'm just wondering if anybody here has tried this particular website or if you have any specific books you recommend for helping you build up your self esteem and self worth, especially after everything we've through. I had these issues prior to my H's A, and now I find my self esteem pretty much in the toilet! Thanks! It's nice to know what has and hasn't worked for everybody.




Edited 1/31/2006 2:06 pm ET by hodgepodge40
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:16pm

I don't know too much about this particular site, but spending $15-20 on a workbook certainly won't break the bank. Check out your local bookstore and library for books on self-esteem. I think they can be quite helpful.

Good luck.

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Registered: 01-20-2006
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:49pm

My self esteem issues arise mostly from weight and perceptions of beauty. I struggled with the psychology of eating disorders, although i never had one to the extent we all know it. I am not fat or obese, but I do have some meat on my bones, being a size 12 and about 5'7. My issues arise when anyone will try to compliment me, usually from my boyfriend. Whenever he would say I am beautiful, I would usually disregard it completely, but now I find myself saying "Yeah, I am beautiful and you are d*mn lucky to have me!" Whenever I am looking in the mirror and I think something negative, I push it out of my mind as soon as possible. If I ever have a random compliment, like about 2 weeks ago a totally random guy whistled at me, I try to keep that to my forefront as much as possible.

In regards to looks, I find that doing things to take care of myself, such as going to the gym, wearing makeup, and buying clothes that fit properly and look good on me help me feel confident when I leave the house. Mostly, I just try to banish any negative thoughts and trust me, as someone who is SO used to being hard on herself, it really works. Good luck!

Caitlin

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Registered: 12-13-2005
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:59pm

I don't mind spending a few bucks on books, etc., as long as they're helpful. I was just curious if anybody else had used that particular website I mentioned and found it helpful. I live in a very small town with a bookstore that is limited, to say the least! I try to buy books from Amazon.com because there's lots of customer reviews and feedback. I hate to order stuff that turns out to be worthless!

Just thought I'd get everybody's opinion before I start spending money! Thanks.