Should I ask H to email OW?
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|Wed, 01-13-2010 - 10:05pm|
D-Day was 12-20, and we're working through this, as we have 2 boys to raise and do still love each other immensely.
He was in a car accident while driving her car, so he agreed to pay the deductible on her insurance, which we have been able to do most of, though we still (theoretically) owe her $200 (which I really think she can do without: he wrecked her car, she wrecked my life... I think she's come out ahead!). She emailed him a week or so ago asking about that balance, but we're in such a tight spot financially right now, it's out of the question. I shortly thereafter emailed her and said that she should address those concerns to ME at MY email (I threw in a few unpleasant statements here and there to make myself feel a little better in the process!), and her reply back was surprisingly agreeable and succinct.
What I'm throwing around in my mind now is whether I should ask my husband to email her to say the things that he's said to me: that he regrets it, that it was a mistake, that he wishes he could take it back, that I'm so much more intelligent, beautiful and classy (I'm tremendously self-conscious about these things) than she.
This was a relatively short-lived affair (Thanksgiving to 12-15, and it happened while he was 1000 miles away), but according to my husband, the OW fell for him hard. Although the remorse he feels for my pain far surpasses it, the pain he's caused her bothers him as well. Saying these things to her would be hurtful to her.
I don't care. I'm angry. A LADY doesn't mess with another woman's husband. Even though (according to him) he made it clear that it was OVER (he told her that even if I didn't forgive him, he wouldn't go back to her because she would have been part of the reason he lost the "love of his life" and that is no way to start a rebound relationship!), I want him to deliberately hurt her the way he has (in my mind) deliberately hurt me.