So depressed

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Registered: 05-04-2009
So depressed
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Fri, 11-20-2009 - 12:57pm

Having a bad day, week...my husband and I have been trying to rebuild for two years now from his EA/PA.


We both have been to our own counselor and marriage counselor.

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Fri, 11-20-2009 - 1:37pm

No, you are not making too much of it. We all have bad days. I'm so sorry. I don't know what to say. With me it takes a little time for me to snap out of it. Sometimes I go on a day or several day crying binge usually associated with me getting sick, a fever, or , like now, BEING STUCK IN THE HOUSE WITH SCIATICA and pain!

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Registered: 05-04-2009
Fri, 11-20-2009 - 3:41pm

I'm so sorry your having to deal with sickness and pain.

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Registered: 08-31-2009
Sat, 11-21-2009 - 2:04am

hey there fitness

i have been married for going on 33 years. it has been almost 4 years since i found out that my husband was involved with a woman for over 3 years, but along with the story goes the fact that he was also trolling on line and seeing other women as well.

you know, it has only been within the past 2 months that i can finally breathe and not obsess, i know that my sound strange, but it has taken me a very long time.

i am not living with a man who gets it at all, yet we are still together. the fact that your husband is understanding of your feelings is a sign to me that you mean much to him than her.

may i ask did you tell him about finding the picture? perhaps that is what caused the slip of the tongue, perhaps it was on his mind, the fact that you were back there in that dark place again thinking about her. i don't know, just trying to offer up a point of view.

you need to give your self some time to heal. i will share a little something that i learned on this journey of mine, the betrayed spouse journey - i have a little saying that i will repeat to myself whenever the thoughts enter my mine = i say - let go and let God. sounds kind of corny, but it does work. at first i was saying it at least 100 times a day, now i no longer have to say it daily. thank goodness.