Starting a new chapter tomorrow

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Starting a new chapter tomorrow
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 9:43am

Haven't been here in awhile, and this is my rebuilding of my life with my kids, not with a man.

Finally the kids and I are moving tomorrow!!! (for those that don't know 4 months after the donor walked out I was laid off, we have been living with my parents the past year) I was accepted for a townhouse at a co-op. Its in the same area I was in and my babies don't have to change schools.

I"m excited, nervous and emotional, its closes what started out as and became a ugly chapter in my life.

My babies have not seen their dad since June 7 of this year, nor have they spoken to him. He hung up on his oldest daughter on Fathers day because he was moving furniture for Mr. Ed (his slutt).

I asked him a month ago if he would help with the cost of movers even 100 bucks he said "you get what you get from child support, make it do" that was my true moment of "you really are an azzhole"

This board has been great and I'm sure there will be bumps along the way, but I"m looking forward to being on my own with my babies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2006
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 3:31pm

(((HUGS))) and I think your children are lucky to have you, and that you'll all be just fine, though I'm sorry you had to deal with all of that to begin with.

Here are some links you may find useful:

Surviving Betrayal: 19 Tips to Get Past Your Husband's Affair

Surviving Betrayal: Healing Meditations

9 Ways to Jump-Start Your Life after Divorce

Surviving Divorce -- and Improving Your Life


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 4:02pm

Hi, I remember all that you went through and also how STRONG you became. I am so sorry to hear of your layoff.

Know that you will be ok, just keep moving forward and the less contact with the azzz the better.

You are right, the old ugly chapter in your life is now over. Now you can begin a whole new wonderful book with your beautiful children by your side.

The best to you always from here on out!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2008
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 4:42pm

Way to go DM!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2007
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 5:53pm

Congratulations on your new chapter, written by you! I'm sure there will be many adventures along the way. And...

You deserve a fairy tale ending.

Keep us posted.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2008
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 3:08am
Congratulations on your move. I have a couple of friends who are single parents and live in a co-op; they love the supportive environment. I hope your experience there is a great one.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 5:27pm

Congrats on your new place DM!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 9:29pm

Thanks everyone. It was a long day but it is done. The azz called and wanted to know when this weekend he could see the kids because he wasn't working. He called a second time and when I said I was up to my own azz in boxes he said "I thought you would be done by now" IDIOT. needless to say I didn't call him back today. He has known since July 19 we were moving yesterday and at that time informed me he would be off work last week, he couldn't have asked then to see the kids, he waits until moving day??????

My kids LOVE it here. It will be great for us. The first X wife of azz helped me today and yesterday, and in return I am keeping three of her kids overnight tonight.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 7:56am
I just want to say I'm so happy for you making a new beginning. You sound so much stronger now than a year ago!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2008
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 10:15am

There is a comedian that has a stand up act titled "You Can't Fix Stupid."

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Registered: 01-02-2005
Fri, 08-07-2009 - 9:39pm

Hey DM!!

Huggs and


Greatly Missed, Never Ever Forgotten