still here

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Registered: 08-06-2008
still here
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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 4:21pm

My husband has been saying that he wants our marriage to work despite

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Registered: 10-09-2008
In reply to: kathy2606
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 12:20am

Will your H to go therapy with you?

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Registered: 02-10-2009
In reply to: kathy2606
Thu, 05-14-2009 - 4:43pm
It sounds to me as if your H wants a wife and a girlfriend as my H did. All I was to him was someone to take care of his needs. He really didn't love me. Here's the thing you need to ask yourself. Do you want to stay with a man that is not begging to have you back? He doesn't sound that enthusiastic about the marriage. He should be laying his life on the line for you -no question. I got fed up w/the adolescent behavior and filed for divorce. Life is too short .
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Registered: 01-28-2009
In reply to: kathy2606
Fri, 05-15-2009 - 8:17am
Best wishes to you.
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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: kathy2606
Fri, 05-15-2009 - 11:39am

Kathy

I have mixed emotions here. My spouse fell for the other man and she is trying to get over him. So I sort of understand That part. But rebuilding is about having a better marriage than what was there before. Don't settle for going back to what it was before. I've seen my spouse struggle to see things my way. But I saw her trying. And I saw progress. I see progress. If your not seeing progress. It's time to lay down the law. You need to say that you need transparency. Go over the phone records together, the charges together, his time and calendar together his emails and text messages, all of it.

DW even goes over mine. I called her friends a few times pumping them for info. This showed up on my phone bill and I was held accountable for them. Can't say that I was wrong to call them, but we had a conversation about it.

This is your life, it's way too short to put up with crapolla for too long.

Thomas

5 kids ages 15-9, D Day: August 5, 2008

Status: Figuring it out. Together.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.