Still so shocked

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2009
Still so shocked
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 10:18am

Well....here I go.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Sat, 07-18-2009 - 12:21pm

Welcome to this board that none of us wanted to ever be on. You will find though that there is

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2009
Sat, 07-18-2009 - 12:56pm
Thank you so much for your reply and your encouraging words.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2009
Sat, 07-18-2009 - 2:10pm

Welcome to this board from another new one - fairly new. Yes, what you are going through is normal. You are not a fool for trying to work it out. You are very brave to do so. And yes, as the last post said, it will get better with time. As to whether it will happen again, that's something no one knows. If this was the only time in all those years, though, it probably won't happen again. Congratulations for staying strong and having the courage to work it out. I went through something very similar in my last marriage which lasted 20 years. Looking back, I was feeling afterward the same way you are now. He had been so devoted to me & kids till that happened and I was just in a state of shock & panic for so long. Well, he and I would have made it, I feel now, as I look back, if I had just been willing to let it go. After 3 years, it was still with me, and I let him know it. We're friends now, and at one point when we were discussing it, he mentioned that I was just never able to let it go. I think I drove him away with it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Sat, 07-18-2009 - 2:54pm

I know that fear that you mention, "what if it happens again"? It did happen again to me, it was the same OW, she called him shortly

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 07-20-2009 - 8:05am

I'm so sorry. I think it is perfectly normal to

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2009
Mon, 07-20-2009 - 11:38am

Thank you sooo much for your advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 07-20-2009 - 12:43pm

If he really is a good man, he also learned a lot from the whole expereince. I cannot believe how wonderfully I am treated now. My husband learned

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2009
Mon, 07-20-2009 - 1:27pm

Again, I thank you for your input.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 07-20-2009 - 1:57pm

A person really needs to say and go through all the different aspects of what

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2008
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 2:43pm
I'm in your shoes too. my husband too wants to rebuild but I've da difficult time trusting him. He seemed to act as though nothing was wrong but it was when I stumbled upon a email of his that I was shocked .

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