Well....here I go.
Welcome to this board that none of us wanted to ever be on. You will find though that there is
Welcome to this board from another new one - fairly new. Yes, what you are going through is normal. You are not a fool for trying to work it out. You are very brave to do so. And yes, as the last post said, it will get better with time. As to whether it will happen again, that's something no one knows. If this was the only time in all those years, though, it probably won't happen again. Congratulations for staying strong and having the courage to work it out. I went through something very similar in my last marriage which lasted 20 years. Looking back, I was feeling afterward the same way you are now. He had been so devoted to me & kids till that happened and I was just in a state of shock & panic for so long. Well, he and I would have made it, I feel now, as I look back, if I had just been willing to let it go. After 3 years, it was still with me, and I let him know it. We're friends now, and at one point when we were discussing it, he mentioned that I was just never able to let it go. I think I drove him away with it.
I know that fear that you mention, "what if it happens again"? It did happen again to me, it was the same OW, she called him shortly
I'm so sorry. I think it is perfectly normal to
Thank you sooo much for your advice.
If he really is a good man, he also learned a lot from the whole expereince. I cannot believe how wonderfully I am treated now. My husband learned
Again, I thank you for your input.
A person really needs to say and go through all the different aspects of what