Tiger Woods won't help me forget
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|Wed, 12-16-2009 - 12:53pm|
So it's been roughly a month since I found out my H was cheating. I had suspicions about it until I showed him all the proof I had and he admitted to it. Since then she (the OW) has sent me a message on Facebook telling me about their affair and how he's had other affairs in the past year that we've been married and ended it with "good luck with your "new beginning" and Happy Holidays".
WHAT A B****!!! This came about 2 days after he ended things with her with an email that I KNEW was too nice but it was sent already so I couldn't exactly change anything. I contemplated writing her back but then remembered that in the "too nice" email he never mentioned that I knew. He just said that he decided to work on his marriage and give himself 110% to his family. It seems that the alleged affairs were all based on the people he speaks about often (which I honestly never trusted them anyway). She made the mistake of mentioning that one of the affairs was a really good friend of mine (she didn't know this) who really is one of those people who would not be able to look you in the eye if she knew that she betrayed you let alone pretend to be your friend. So whether what she said was true or not... I disregarded it just because I know that it could have just been something she made up to hurt me further since he didn't leave me for her (despite the fact that he vented to her how I didn't really love him but that he fit in some psycho- June Cleaver fantasy I wanted. *Unfortunately this was my fault*) but also nothing more could hurt me more than finding out that he had an emotional relationship with her.
So I didn't write back but I couldn't not respond. I decided I would allow myself to obsess for one day before completely disregarding her existence as anything more than a whore. So I gathered as much info as I could including her cell number.
After chucking the fantasies of posting all her info on some sexual bestiality website, I decided that instead of sending her a message on Facebook, I wanted her to hear my voice. Cool, calm and collected so I can be as real to her as she was forced to be to me.
After that, I gave myself 100% to my marriage trying to fix the problems that we have and so far we're talking alot more and plan to go to counseling come the new year.
That being said... All this crap about Tiger woods Affair is just bringing all my feelings of disgust and betrayal back to the surface, especially when they publicized the Sexts that he and some OW shared. I couldn't help but put my H and the whore in the same situation and god only knows what was written between them. As much as I don't want to, anything referencing a cheating spouse just sends me back to the pain of my situation. I know I need to fight against it in order to move forward but it's just so hard... Any advice other than crawling under a rock?
Edited 12/16/2009 2:08 pm ET by bittersweetconfusion