Trying to move forward

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Registered: 08-06-2008
Trying to move forward
Wed, 01-27-2010 - 6:36pm

Today was spent waiting in for people to give me estimates for painting, repairing and replacing the stained carpets in the house in preparation for putting it on the market in the Spring so I have felt good that I am being productive towards the future.

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Registered: 11-16-2006
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 10:41am
Good for you are starting to look out for you.
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Registered: 01-28-2010
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 12:12pm
Just one thing to say, no one can make you happy, unhappy etc. He is not happy because he isn't happy with himself. I am sure whoever he cheated on you with thought he was the best thing in the world and because he isn't happy with himself, this made him feel admired and special, while you probably couldn't stand his behavior and how he treated you. I was in the same boat.... Until he works on making himself happy, you are screwed. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Be selfish. If you take care of yourself, and so does he it will fall into place, if it doesn't then it doesn't and he can be miserable and lonely, or find the next victim. I got to that point, and he snapped back and figured it all out after I put my foot down. We are happy today, but it still hurts when I think about it.
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Registered: 10-09-2008
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 12:09am

"He constantly brings up things that happened so very long ago that I may have said and done and constantly blames me for making him so unhappy and lonely that he was forced to seek happiness with all of the other women he has had."


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Registered: 02-03-2010
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 11:02am

Sounds like he's getting upset because you are trying to move on.