Two sides of the tennis bracelet...Opinions please.
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|Thu, 09-06-2012 - 1:05pm|
So my husband gave me a very beautiful diamond tennis bracelet a couple years ago for our anniversary. It was more than just a bracelet to me. He had given me one a couple years after we got married, and the clasp broke and I lost it. I was upset, and he was mad b/c it wasn't cheap for us, but after a few years we joked about how I can't hang on to nice jewelry. SO when he gave me the new one a couple years ago, I was shocked. Plus he and my daughter picked it out together, and it was made by a really amazing jeweler in our town. I wore it every day for almost a year, till I found out about his affair. It was going on when he gave me the bracelet. I have not worn the bracelet since. We have discussed it a few times and how I don't think I will ever wear it again because of what it reminds me of, and he gets very angry.
So yesterday I took it to 2 very upscale jewelers to see if they would be willing to buy it from me. I didn't tell him b/c I knew what his reaction would be. Turns out no one was willing to give me what it is worth, so I still have it. I'm not going to give it away. My problem is this. HIs argument is that it was an honest gesture on his part to buy me another tennis bracelet, and that it had special meaning to him b/c our daughter helped him pick it out. He is VERY good at compartmentalizing, so the bracelet itself (despite what was going on when he gave it to me), has nothing to do with anything else. I however, don't think I will ever be able to look at it again, must less wear it, without thinking about the fact that he was cheating when he gave it to me (obviously I suck at compartmentalization). So when I broke down and told him that I had thought about selling it, he got really angry.
Any opinions on this? Am i being ridiculous over a stupid piece of jewelery? The hard part is I can totally see his side, but can't get past my side. He said keep it put away for our daughter, but there's no way I want her wearing it either. Just like I never want her or any children down the line to wear my wedding rings (which are family heirlooms). I feel like they are not good omens. So now I' stuck. This is the first day in a VERY LONG time I have been down and depressed about the affair. It's been a year and a half since DDay, and we have rebuilt, and it's good, but this just got me down. What should I do?