update and questions

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Registered: 01-28-2009
update and questions
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Tue, 03-17-2009 - 9:25am

I went to my therapist yesterday and posed the question if she thought I was stupid for staying.

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Registered: 02-10-2009
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 10:16am

I think you're feelings are normal. When you go thru this experience you feel such a loss for the marriage you thought you'd have. But now you have to create good memories to replace the old and form a new marriage as a partnership, not as you were(mothering.) that fear you have of risk is b/c of all the damage and you have to decide if you can live w/it and move on together. i think it is always there although it lessens in intensity as time goes by. Open communication and occasional therapy to check up will help.

Ask your therapist what to say to your son. Maybe just tell him you had problems and are always working on the marriage(don't get too specific) and see what he says.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 11:03am

Some family secrets can be damaging but I don't know that it's a good idea to confide in a child with problems such as these.