one thing I wish some ws' would understand is that while discussing what they did is painful for THEM it's necessary for us and the rebuilding of our lives.
Failure to talk .. to communicate is what causes fights like you had. Bc no one knows how the other feels, thinks or wants .... and everything is up in the air and tense.
I see a lot of hope here but also some attempts at manipulation.
"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop." Herb Stein
Congratulations on having your H back. The 2 of you are showing wisdom in not wanting to discuss this in front of the kids, and in going to places together. MC is an excellent idea, if it's a good one. It sounds like you are both really trying.
The reason he isn't talking about this with you is probably because he has been afriad of rocking the boat, not realizing that it is even more damaging not to discuss it. In light of the argument that has erupted, maybe that will help him to see that it has to be discussed. It could also be that maybe he is wondering why you haven't brought it up, and so he thinks that he shouldn't, either. Maybe he thinks it's your way of trying to put it in the past. But it's plain that it bothers you and that you need for there to be
I don't know your whole story because I have been mostly on the other betrayal board.
"I'll be fine either way."
That's a great attitude to have, Lilyblsm!