Update, a sense of peace
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|Tue, 03-24-2009 - 6:05pm|
I wanted to update everyone who has been reading my story. I know this will be long so pull up a chair if you're inclined to read further.
After I called OW last week, DH took the battery out of his cell phone and threw it in the drawer, saying he would be available to no one. I thought this was silly but let him do it. No one else knew. Last Sat my dtr & I were shopping. She was trying frantically to reach her dad on his cell. We'd been invited to dinner w/her BFs parents & no way was I going to commit for him. I told her to stop trying to call him b/c he no longer carried his ph. That was it for her, she burst into tears right there and said "what is wrong w/dad? It's like he's lost his mind!"
We aborted the shopping trip immediately and went to talk. I gave her a little more of the story (she asked why he quit carrying his ph) and I reminded her that we're in counseling and we're trying. She said "I see you trying. I see Dad avoiding us. Why is he avoiding us?" So I said it was b/c I thought he felt guilty every time he saw us b/c it reminded him that he continued a friendship I asked him to end. She said she'd been thinking about it and had decided to move to my mom's for a while b/c it's just too awkward at home. She's 17 btw, in case I haven't covered that.
We went home.