Was your S just suddenly "back"?

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Was your S just suddenly "back"?
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 4:16pm

What a crazy week.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 9:27pm

maybe... been there..once again caught my husband .. but this time ,just like other times ,he is sorry


BUT this time, we watched"fireproof" and are reading book called "love dare" ( can buy both at walmart).. i suggest this.. if she's sincere.. she'll try


god bless ( it's about christianity.. and we're jewish.. so i guess it dosen't matter)


good lucl


laura

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 2:14am

Yes, my DH did a lot of the same.

 

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 5:49am

Well Thinking, maybe she finally had that epiphany I was talking about .


Yes, that's how it was for my husband. Now of course I didn't know he had an A at the time but all of a sudden my husband was all over me with affection and attention and wanted to take me out to eat all the time. (as that's what he did with her) And all I kept saying at the time was,

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 9:05am

Hi-


When I first read your post, I immediately thought that your wife was acting to cover up her secrets.


I think that shows how cynical I have become because now I am not so sure.

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 9:38am
Thanks for the feedback.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 1:51pm
I didn't mean to imply that she is acting.
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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 6:48pm

"When I first read your post, I immediately thought that your wife was acting to cover up her secrets."

That was my first reaction. My spouse pulled some really dirty tricks to meet with the other man. Everyone got used including the kids.

But having said that. Yes, there were a few levels of her being back. I would have to say that most of them involved her owning up to some aspect of what she did. And they were aspects that she came up with. Like "three months ago I felt this way... But now I can see how screwed up that was." A recent one was "I can't listen to the radio still because they are still playing that song that I liked because it was the one that gave me hope to get away from you ... I don't want to do that anymore. I want to be with you."

We got in a huge fight and I took her to her shrink that day for an emergency session. Shrink helped her find a friend to stay with that night. I was freaking out because it was the first night away from her since I learned about the affairs. DW was going to stay at our good friends house but at midnight she came home to me because she knew I would be freaking out. (I totally figured she would run off to the OM's that night.) She came home and got into bed and reminded me that she was through with all that and that her place was with me.

it's interesting to see her come out of the fog she was in. What a relief.

Thomas

5 kids ages 15-9, D Day: August 5, 2008

Status: Rebuilding

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 9:46pm
Never mind.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein