WDYT? Should I D?
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|Mon, 04-17-2006 - 10:03am|
Okay - so we are six weeks into half-butt rebuilding (no MC, no NC - says they were 'just friends'- I find that HARD to believe). DH is still working w/ OW. I notice a call on the cell phone record Sunday to his work at 5:38 Friday. It was only one minute and he was on the way home at that time, I don't think anyone was there to talk to. When he was having his A, he would always call her on his way home (not sure why?) so I am leery. Well, he had called me right after this call to tell me he was on his way home so when I looked at his actual phone, he had deleted his call lists right before he called me cuz that phone call is the only one there. When I asked him about it he said "How do you know who I called? I cleared my phone." He didn't realize I can see the records online. So I told him I saw it online. Then he said "She wasn't even there Friday. I had left something out and needed someone to put it up for me but noone was there. Anyway, you think I would be that stupid?" Well, duh, yeah, esp if you thought I didn't have another record of your calls!!!!
Oh and Saturday (before I checked the phone) he told me that OW was leaving the country at the end of July. I suppose I will be dealing w/ a heartbreak at that point if we are still together. That will be grand, him moping around w/ a broken heart and actually thinking I don't have a clue! If indeed he is telling the truth about her leaving and not just trying to get me off his back about getting another job. It just feels like all this is fixing to come to a head, what if she decides not to go w/ her DH and they decide to stay together? I just have all these scenarios (probably overblown) going on in my head, makes me want to start a divorce first just so I won't be blindsided. Is this normal or am I nuts?
It's just that he deleted his call lists right after the call and just that general 'gut feeling'. Or maybe he just knows I would question the call even if it was legit so he deleted it to avoid another unnecessary conflict? I don't know, I just see it as he is still deceiving me and think I just need to wake up from this fairy tale, realize I'm married to a cake-eater and go ahead and file. Need an opinion! Thanks so much!