Wedding rings?? (long) Confused !!!
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|Mon, 01-16-2006 - 2:42pm|
My h and I have been talking about getting new wedding bands. Let me give you a little back story. We got married in 95. In 2000 my H stopped wearing his wedding band because he said it was too loose we had it sized 3 or 4 times due to weight loss and gain over the 5 years he did wear the ring. So it had become kind of thin as a result. Anyway, I did not thing anything of it as I felt we had this bond that could not possibly get broken. Talk about love being BLIND!! Anyway, once d-day came around and we were "rebuilding" he started to wear the ring again. Only he had not stop seeing her and it took 7 more months for things to end. During the end when I found my own place and he was begging to come home I had his ring and mine in a storage box. I refused to give it to him and would not wear mine. Itold him he had made a fool out of me and our marriage and the bands did not hold any meaning to him so what should he care..
About 4 months into our real rebuilding he asked me for his ring and asked if i would wear mine. I agreed but to this day I hate the rings! The sparkle they once had is gone! I have not attachment to them as I once did. To be honest it kind of makes me angry when I see his on him. I feel he is only wearing out of guilt now..
During Christmas he bought me a emerald and dimond anniversary band. I love it and the best part was I did not ask for it! On New Years he asked me if I would consider getting us new wedding bands. He said he understands my feelings behind the ones we have now and would like to have new ones as a symbol of his love commitment.. Well as you all know when we hear things like that after the A. The emotional rollercoaster starts up that steep hill.. You feel like vomiting, then like ripping their heads off, then it turns to tears of who knows what joy, pain, happy sad.. pick one it will work.. Then this strange peacful feeling like WOW maybe we will be fine!?!?!?!?! To OMG what is going on here..
Anyway, I guess I could not make this long story short. I have decided I do want new rinfs. Last night he asked me what I wanted to do with them. I said "throw them in the ocean!" He looked really hurt.. But few hours latter he came to me and said, "lets throw them in the ocean!" I looked at him like he was crazy because we were not even talking about our rings at that point... Then he said, "we can go back to the beach where we got married and we can both throw our rings in the ocean!" "Then put our new ones on it will be a fresh start!!!" He was like a little kid. He was so proud of himself for thinking of this!
All day long I have been thinking about it and he maybe right. But then there is that part of me that says no. You can't throw the old rings in the ocean! What kind of Karma would that bring??
So that is why I am confused do any of you think it would be bad luck? Or as my H says a fresh start??? i am so confused any thoughts would be great.
Thanks for reading Irene