What to say when meeting the OW/OM
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|Thu, 01-12-2006 - 2:41pm|
I'm in a little bit of a slump this afternoon and am looking for some humorous/bitchy/snarky kind of comeback if and when I ever meet the OW.
I went to lunch and saw a woman who looked kind of like the OW, and of course my mind wandered a little into the negativity patch! I never ever wanted to meet this person, but I stumbled upon her picture and now I know what she looks like. I didn't want that image in my head, but what's done is done and now I know.
Here's the story in a nutshell: H & OW work in the same dept., although they don't always work together on any given day. It's not up to them when they have to work on a project together. Immediately after the A, they both knew they made a mistake. OW even told my H that she wasn't interested in him sexually (ouch!) and had made a serious mistake. They are friends in so much as they have to work together occasionally. All this is water under the bridge for me. I don't like that he sees her at work, but there's no other options around the situation. She might be transferring out soon, so fingers are crossed for that. H is hoping for that too.
The thing is, if some day down the road we attend a company function and I end up meeting her, I just want some really sassy pearls of wisdom I can use to subtly let her know that I know, but not come across as a bitch. OW didn't tell her H about the A because of fear of violence. My H didn't tell the OW that he told me. He dealt with all our problems at home with me, in private. It really served no purpose in telling her. What was done was done and they both needed to refrain from discussing the situation at work.
If anybody thinks I need to be more mature and just suck it up if I meet her, then please tell me. I don't want revenge, I'd just kind of like her to know that I'm in on the secret. I'm not afraid of her, I just have no desire to meet her, but it will probably happen eventually at one of the company functions.
Thanks for letting me vent! Our rebuilding is going pretty good, but I just had this little trigger at lunch and thought I'd let off some emotions here. Thanks for the advice everybody.
Edited 1/12/2006 2:44 pm ET by hodgepodge40