When to begin MC?
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|Sun, 01-15-2006 - 6:48am|
I need some advice. It's been 64 days past D-Day. H has opened up some and is willing to go to MC. He has been very remorseful and although it is like pulling teeth, he does answer questions about the A. We have been intimate with each other. We are more comfortable with each other. We seem to be moving forward. We have an appointment scheduled for MC in a week.
My concern is H still has e-mail addresses of several OW in his computer, erases history from his computer and still has phone listing of most recent OW in his cell. Although he has opened up a little, I feel he is holding on to past. I have not asked him to remove e-mail addresses and phone numbers because I feel he should do so on his own. In checking his cell phone, there has not been any recent calls to OW, but OW name is still listed when I feel it should be deleted. Is it possible to block OW from calling H cell phone? I did ask if any recent contact, H says OW has sent e-mail but H has not responded. H says there has not been any contact with OW. Since H erasess history from computer, how do I know for sure? How can I trust what H says? He has been very loving and saying all the right things, but I feel he is holding on.
My question, is it too soon to start MC if it appears H hasn't let go? Is it too soon for me because I find it difficult to ask him to delete numbers and addresses? It was very difficult for me to make an appointment with MC. Would MC be the opportunity to discuss this or should we have worked this out before MC?
I don't know why I'm so hesitant to begin MC but I am. It took me 2 days to make the call and I hung up several times before finally making the appointment. Can anyone offer insight?
Thank you in advance. All of you have been so helpful in prior posts. I don't know where I'd be without your help. Thank you.