We've had an emotional time, lately.
When I read the parts of your post where he goes into his assumptions and feelings about you it just seems to me that he is not accepting responsibility for WHAT HE did to you. It sounds to me lke he makes up this mish mash to justify bad feelings and bad behavior.
I agree with georgiannasxhe is not even at the point where he has accepted responsibility for the horror he has put you through and continues tohe is not helping you heal I do not see such a selfish person working on themselves for 3 monthsI would assume he has other intentions if he is wanting NC with youimho you need to focus on living without him - he is clearly not the man you thought he was (this knowledge can help you through the pain)IC is great but you are not getting what you need from him, if you are counseling you could use a good couples counselor in my opinionsadly he knows you are there he knows you love him you are a given to him - no challenge if he knows you are strong enough to move on and dare I suggest you tell him if he needs NC for 3 months you might as well just end things right now (this 3 month nc is just another way to run away from the real work with you and his responsibilities)I would be very worried that he just wants to mess around and is too selfish to be truthful and too selfish to let you go, wanting the ego boost of 2 or more women again - cakeeatingand his pickwhat would this be like for you 3 months of uncertainty and no work on the marriage itself? I think it would be very hard on you, what about you?
When you talk aobut patterns we seem to have this pattern where my husband is a little 'overly enthusiastic' all the time.
Ties, I’ve been thinking about your post for a few days now.
Are you ok, Ties?