You decided to leave and.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
You decided to leave and.....
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Sun, 10-04-2009 - 5:38pm
I have been on a rollercoaster, some days wanting to stay, some days to go. For those of you who have left, are you happy with your decision? What have been the pitfalls? My H and I have been married for 27 years and it is hard to imagine life without him, but hard to imagine living with this anger I continue to feel. You see, this is his second affair. The first was only 6 weeks long, he confessed and I went through hell. We went to counseling, and I felt the marriage was much better. Them six years later he has another affair, this one 3 years long. I can't get over the anger I feel. He knew how much I had hurt the first time, he saw my pain and anguish and yet went ahead and did it again. I stay for my kids (although they are in college now), for financial reasons, because I do not want to be alone, because I am scared.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 8:39pm

Hi Audrey,

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 11:29pm

if you look over to the right - the stranger riding your roller coaster is me.

i have been married for 32 years, a long time. my husband, a great deal worse than yours. a serial cheater - who began 2 weeks into our marriage.

way back when, i stayed for all of the wrong reasons, the kids, the kids, the kids. now i stay because i do not know how to leave.

i am still unhappy, i am still sad, i am still disappointed, and I AM STILL SO HURT.

i know exactly how you are feeling but unfortunately i have no words of wisdom. i just wanted to let you know that someone else understands exactly how you are feeling and why you are feeling it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 11:33pm

thank you for posting your story. you have a great deal of strength.

wishes for continued growing success, peace, and happiness.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 12:15am

I answered your other post about H working with xow and felt your pain. I too have been married for 27 years and just like you decided to

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 6:56am

I haven't left, but we'd all like to know how they can cheat on a person they say they love.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 2:34pm
Oh boy, that sure got nasty.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 2:39pm
I don't know how you guys can handle a long-term affair like that.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 3:42pm

Hi Myra,