You have got to read this

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2010
You have got to read this
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 1:12pm


I was searching the web the other night and found this article.
It's for all of us who are trying to work things out with our spouse. It so completely explains how we feel and gives the needed knowledge to our spouses on how, what, why we are feeling what we are feeling. I actually cried because it put into words what I couldn't describe myself. I thought it was a great article I hope you agree. Let me know.

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/rebuilding-marriage-after-infidelity/discussions/messages/9239402

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 11:43pm

i want to thank you for posting this................

as a woman who has been married for a long time to a serial cheater,,,, i so wish i would have had this along with the 180* list when i had my d day.

this post is just that important. i only wish it did not have all of those *** and other things in it.

but none the less i am going to download it

i thank you for sharing, i so wish all of the women that come here could read it, and then share it with their 'don juans'.

thank you again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 11:27am

thanks for sharing.

It does put things in order.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2010
Tue, 05-11-2010 - 4:53pm

This is

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 10:09am
great thanks for posting it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2009
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 2:14pm

Thanks for finding this!


Along with the 180, and fivediamondwife's letter, this should be recommended reading for everyone who visits this board.

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Registered: 03-09-2010
Thu, 06-10-2010 - 12:02pm

Mikelion

Yesterday I printed this out to read because I read printed pages better that text on a screen. Like those before said it brought tears to my eys to be reminded of how painful betrayal can be. I have often tried to explain to H how I felt and couldn't put it into words because my brain is so fried and it is difficult for me to put thoughts into words. Last night we were on the computer fixing a family photo he has been putting together and he was erasing some imperfections from my portrait and asked "is there anything else you want me to take out?" I said yes, the OW from your facebook friends. He said, Why, we don't communicate?" I just asked him again and said please. He did, right there with me watching and I knew it pained him to do so. He later told me it was hard to defriend her, boy did that hurt!! Can you say, "TRIGGER"? I had to leave it hurt so much, but before I left I asked him to read this article. When I came home he had read the whole thing and was truly sorry for all he was putting me through. He truly did not know how much this still was hurting me. He thought I was over reacting to his EA. That I should be over it already somehow. He finally gets that I'm not the only one who is so deeply wounded to EAs. I really appreciate whoever posted that article for WSs read. My H has a great tool for forgetting unpleasant episodes in his life. From childhood to present so this article is a god-send for us BSs to give to our WSs just to prove we aren't the only ones in so much pain due to their indiscretions. Thanks again,

CrazyHeart422

Hurts have taught me never to give up loving
Be willing to take another risk and chance, otherwise tomorrow may be empty.

Hurts have taught me never to give up loving Be willing to take another risk and chance, otherwise tomorrow may be empty.
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Registered: 03-09-2010
Tue, 06-15-2010 - 4:07am

Anyone struggling with their FWS this article has made a huge impact on our rebuilding efforts. BSs please print it out and have your FWS read it. It hit a cord in My FWS. Tonight he told me how much he loved me and he would go to his grave proving it and that he would never do it again!!

Good Luck

CrazyHeart422

Hurts have taught me never to give up loving
Be willing to take another risk and chance, otherwise tomorrow may be empty.

Hurts have taught me never to give up loving Be willing to take another risk and chance, otherwise tomorrow may be empty.