07/07/2007

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07/07/2007
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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 11:11am


So, I felt like I was doing fine and all...actually emailing with other people...meeting other people, and enjoying life really well...having fun driving around in my convertible, going to my daughters ball games....

Then, in the paper this morning, they have a full page spread on how very popular the date 07/07/2007 is for weddings....that was supposed to be our day to get married too, in the back yard! I really enjoy my life right now but why is it that, even though I know we are not meant to be together, am I hurting so bad that we won't be getting married in the back yard on that day? It's like all I can think about is the fun times we had together, and not any of the bad times. I shouldn't let it bother me but it eats me up. She dumped me back in February and I know it's only May, but I want to move on in life. I want to think about all the wonderful people that are now in my life. Why does that stupid date bother me so much?

Rob

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Registered: 07-13-2006
In reply to: robp_2181
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 12:46am
How hard it is to see them everyday. I remember that, but luckily for me I don't work with him anymore. The good news is you're not alone. I see a truck like his pass me and I wonder what he's doing or how his life compares to what we had. Like you I always tr to focus on something else. However in these last few months I have taken up a hobby. I make bead jewelry. It really passes the time and doesn't give me a chance to just sit around and wonder. If there is something you like to do, working with clay, sewing, crochet, or even writing is a good outlet. I wrote a short story one evening about how I want my life to be, without him in it. I call it personal therapy. Anything that you enjoy can help you over come those lingering feelings, and soon you'll be enjoying this new outlet so much that you'll forget why you started doing it. That's when you'll know you can finally move on. This is just my opinion, of course, but it has worked for me in the past. Keep your head held high, and don't let him get to you. When you see him look him in the eye and say hello, it will make him understand he no longer has your heart, whether he does or not. I hope this helps.
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In reply to: robp_2181
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 2:26pm


Thanks again!

There is definately someone out there for you! You bet!

Like I said, I force myself to go out and do things even though I don't want to. I figure, if I really really really do not want to do it, I should.

After I had to move out in Feb, my daughter and I found a great place to live in a great neighborhood. It is sooo terrific. My neighbor, Tim, is the best guy in the world, and there has to be at least 15 kids in the neigborhood that my daughter has lots of fun with.

My ex's brother-in-law told me back in Feb, 'You don't know this now but, this is the best thing she ever did for you'. You know what? Today, I believe it!

I met this really nice girl, and she and I hit it off really well. It's also funny how small the world is. I tell her in the second email that I enjoy drinking Reisling wine. She responds that Columbia Valley Celler Masters Reisling is her all time favorite. Well, I am not kidding on this but, that one is MY all time favorite as well. Holy crap.
Then, I'm talking to her, and I tell her how much of a great guy my neighbor Tim is, and how he cut my grass for me while I went to my daughters ball game, and she asks me his last name. I tell her, and wouldn't you know it....her dad and my neighbor, are practically best friends. Holy crap again!

The more people you interact with, the better your chances of finding the right one.

Have a great day!

Rob

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Registered: 03-08-2007
In reply to: robp_2181
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 2:28pm


live for today, and hope for tomorrow. That's the best advise one can give and how I live my life these days.

Thanks.

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Registered: 03-08-2007
In reply to: robp_2181
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 2:35pm


Woops. I meant, Learn from yesterday, live for today, and hope for tomorrow.

Forgot to copy the learn from yesterday part, which is the most important piece.

I might cry on 07/07/2007 but I won't let it get to me. Anyway, The Police and Bon Jovi will be playing on that day. Wouldn't you know that, The Police are one of my favorite bands and Bon Jovi is my ex's all time favorite. Maybe I can take her to the concert and we can get married there? Yeah, fat chance of that happening...plus would I want to even take her back after she dumped me? She could do it again.

Anyway, life is awesome and I am having fun and that's all that matters.

Rob

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Registered: 03-08-2007
In reply to: robp_2181
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 2:46pm

dear rob- i just read this whole thread and i must say that you are doing the right thing!!! congrats! you just never know where you'll find new people!

i'm sure next year when our "6th" anniversary will roll around i'll be sad too, but right now, we're trying to move and be happy!

keep it up.

your story is very motivating and inspiring for me.

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In reply to: robp_2181
Fri, 05-25-2007 - 11:23am


Thanks for the kind words! I have a new feeling on life...whatever happens happens, just go with the flow. I could die tomorrow, so I enjoy today and take the bad as nothing more than a learning experience.

I just finished reading a book last night called 'A Perfect Day' by Richard Paul Evans.
I couldn't stop crying the last 100 pages of the book. I'm not a wimp but I am emotional and this book was so so emotional. The message of the book was really good and the ending was terrific.

Just find something you love doing and do it.

Good luck to you...I hope everything works out for the best!

Rob

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