10years and now its over

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2007
10years and now its over
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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:33pm

Hi

My 10 year relationship with my fiancee ended on wed night We have a three year old daughter that is living with me. We had bee drinking and things got out of hand. I asked him to leave but I didnt mean it. He is now living back with his mother and has cam down coupke of times to see our daughter. He has not stayed but takes her with him. We have had a chat and i asked him to come home he said no that wednesday was the final straw. I am finding it really hard to cope as I lost my father in September and my Mum in January, I dont fell as if I have anybody. I havent really stopped crying either and am struggling with my emotions when my daughter is around. She is also always asking were her daddy is. The day before the arguement, we were planning a wedding for next month and had booked and paid for our honeymoon. I just feel devestated. I still love him and I am sure he loves me but he feels that we would be better parents living apart. We have been argueing a lot recently but I felt that was maybe the pressure of trying to conceive. Everything just feels so wrong I am so unhappy as I am typing this I am even crying. Any advise would be great.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2004
Sat, 07-14-2007 - 12:39pm
10 years is a long time to be with someone. I really don't know how to say this without hurting you, but your "ex" has probably been considering breaking up with you for some time now, and didn't know how to do it. So the opportunity came, he took it. He has probably knew for some time, but like all men, they fail to tell the women, and when the break up comes, were totally blindsided and devasted. The fight you had, shouldn't of ended the relationship like it did. So he wanted out. It will take you some time to recover, because 10 years is a long time. It's a decade with someone. Your gonna have to find a way to move on, and it will be hard. Until the day comes when your over this and him, you will have to endure the steps of a broken heart. I'm sorry, and I wish you the best. Continue to post on these boards, they are really helpful.