13 days broken up and i saw him today

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Registered: 04-11-2004
13 days broken up and i saw him today
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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:07pm
So we broke up on new years morning without any warning. He called today to get his bills and checkbook that he left behind. I told him to call me later since i was still sleeping. When he called later in the afternoon he was questioning where i was and telling me where he was. I gave up no info and told him that i didnt want to know where he was, i figure the less i know the better. So we met in a neutral place and i had his stuff for him. He then tells me we are separated and he still loves me. I just asked him if there was anything else and he said no, he said thank you very much and I walked away. I did not cry in front of him but turned and walked away and the tears began to flow. I just dont know what to do. I miss him terribly and today was the final closure by meeting and getting his stuff back. Very stressful, and i think i am still numb from the whole process. I know i need to focus on moving forward but today was a big step back for me..any advice?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 1:47pm
A setback after seeing him so soon is normal. You have to just stay focused and keep looking forward. Journal writing helps, venting on paper, even writing him UNSENT letters, and venting here on the boards. Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 7:10pm

I second that. You should view this as a minor setback. So ... seperated? That bothers me. Are you just taking a break, or is it over? sounds to me like you need a bit of clarification, so be careful.

I would recommend no contact for a while and wait to see if he calls. Hopefully, you will have it together enough to tell him your honest feelings about what happened and make a decision of your own.

I'm sorry you have to go through this too... let me tell you that venting on this board has been wonderful because there are a LOT of moments where i'd like to call him and tell him EXACTLY what I think of what he did. I also got no warning on new years day... man did that suck.

Hang in there, you're going to be just fine!