For 13 months he loved me, then 1 day...
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For 13 months he loved me, then 1 day...
| Thu, 03-23-2006 - 8:24pm |
Then he just stopped calling or returning my calls. It's been 3 weeks!
He was supposed to come over and spend the night and couldn't for whatever reason. And when I told him I was upset he called me clingy so I hung up on him. That was 3weeks ago. How can you go from seeing, loving, talking to someone everyday 5 times a day, to just NOTHING? I have no closure, we didn't even fight!! I'm sooo confused as to what is going on... Are we broken up? I mean... he won't even call me to tell me whats going on.
Has anyone ever gone through this? He just dropped me... like that. We were bestfriends, and the little tiff we had wasn't anything close to major.
Heartbroken and confused
Andrea

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Yes, I went through it...and we didn't even have a fight, our last conversation was positive, I thought! But after 1.5 years, he just stopped talking to me (that was in November). I finally did get an apology from him a few weeks ago (4 months after he disappeared) but while it helped, it doesn't make the pain he caused me go away.
I think you do need to assume that you are broken up, sorry. And somehow you need to find your own closure...I was working on accepting that a man who was right for me would never do something like that and hurt me in that way.
I'm assuming you apologized for hanging up on him in one of your messages?
Sheri
Well, today was the first day I have called him since hanging up on him 3 weeks ago. No I did not apologize, I did, however say that I'm not upset with him for caling me clingy. And I said that I hope he isnt upset with m either. In the past he has done waaaaaaaaaaay worse than just hang up on me, so I doubt he'd hold a grudge for that. I think that he just refused to call me since I was the one who hung up on him and as time progressed... That said, I don't understand how we went to having that little spat to this scenario where he is acting as is we had never met. An apology is redundant at this point I feel. What good would it do?
How can I get him to just let me know what his intentions are?
Hmm. IMO a sincere apology is never too late and never redundant. I think the fact that he's done worse is irrelevant. Apologizing is just the right thing to do, IMO...regardless of what he said to you, hanging up on someone is never cool. If you really want to open the door to talking to him, I would apologize. That doesn't mean you're excusing what he said, it just means that you're taking responsibility for responding childishly.
You said in your first post that he wasn't returning your calls...but you say here that you never called him until yesterday, so I'm confused...which is it?
Sheri
Thankyou for the reply and I apologize for the confusion. Last night was the 1st time I attemtpted to "call" him. a few days prior to this situation we had made plans to go to church on sunday. I texted him the friday before and asked if we were still on for church on sunday. He replied "No." So I did attempt contact twice (1 text and this one phonecall), but I only just recently actually used the phone.
I did however just receive an email from him I'd like to post it...
Andrea-
I appreciate your conciliatory tone on your voicemail. To answer your questions, I am not yet ready to talk, but at the same time, I am certainly not upset. I have been accepted to the Rice MBA program, and granted a 40% scholarship as well. I have still not received word one way or the other from Texas or HBS. I should know where I’ll be going to school by the end of next week, though, if all goes well.
NTES finished its March contract at exactly $90.00. I had plays at $95 and up, so I finished out of the money. I still have one more play for April at $105. Finally, Netease announced a 4:1 stock split effective on March 28th, so my play will change to April calls at $26.25. At today’s prices, the stock would be worth about $22.60, so keep your fingers crossed that it keeps going up…
Take care of yourself, Babe. Don’t forget to start your father’s taxes (and yours!) and that you donated some $15,000 (est.) to the Salvation Army. Keep up your good grades… I’m pulling for you!
Very Best Regards,
Now, what is going on?!?! He isnt ready to talk, but not upset, but he still calls me "Babe"?!
Yikes!! I hate to say it, but that doesn't sound like an email from a man who still wants to be in a romantic relationship with you. I mean really, "Very Best Regards"?????
I think you need to prepare yourself for it being over and move on. Hopefully at some point he will deign to tell you why he decided to end it but for the moment he's just being stubborn, it sounds like.
Sorry, I wish I got a better feeling from the email...
Sheri
We had a disagreement. Not major. But he stormed off in the car, which I still don't get.. It wasn't a problem. Really. But the fact that he left me on the street in front of my place at midnight without waiting to see that I got in safely ticked me off and I left a VM. I never heard from him again.
He blocks my calls and won't get in touch..
It's been two weeks and a day. It feels like a year.
Thank you for all of your replies... I'm just very confused, why call me Babe? Why not just say "take care of yourself". and leave it at that...
the other thing is.. I accidentally emailed him a copy of a paper for english... it was just a paragraph really, but upon looking into his email, I expected to see it in "trashcan" and saw that he put it in "personal". It was clearly not a note meant for him but he still saved it.
Does that mean anything or am I just grasping at straws? BTW the english paper thing happened a few days ago, B4 he emailed me saying he wasnt ready to talk yet.
Golly, putting women through such torture is just monstrous... Id like to tell him so, but alas.... I'm cut off from speaking with him.
At any case, Hold onto actions rather than words, They never mean the same..
As for the paper thing, who knows. But really, do you really believe that this treatment is all that you deserve in life? Why can't you deserve to be treated properly? that is the real question to keep asking yourself.
I keep trying to repeat it to myself ad nauseum. And sometimes it actually helps.
Hang in there!
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