180 degrees and so confused.

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Registered: 09-26-2004
180 degrees and so confused.
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 10:50pm
I am confused, hurt, devestated, angry, etc...my guy has turned into something i thought he could never be. So cold, distant, brief and uncaring with no warning, no cause and no justification.

I don't understand what happened and I may never know why he retreated and became so weird.

I just hope I can find that all consuming love and passion that I had with him again. Its a daunting task, but I am always up for a challenge.

Keep your heads up and your hearts strong.

Wish me luck.....

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Registered: 07-03-2003
Sun, 10-03-2004 - 11:03pm
Did he break up with you? Or is he still in your life?

Pam
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 8:51am
Sometimes we have no control over a guy changing out of the blue. It's the worst feeling in the world because it's so unexpected. It's hard to actually deal with because it came out of the blue. You know what though? There is nothing you can do about it and nothing you can do to change them. The faster you move on the faster you can get over it!
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Registered: 09-26-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 9:43am
I think it is entirely a long distance communication issue problem.

He has not come out directly and ended it. But, i feel as though he is hiding from me. I am going to stop communicating and let him come to me if that happens.

We will see.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 10:45pm
I'm so sorry to hear you still haven't heard much from your guy....I know you must be devastated!! Just try and stay busy and do things that would normally make you happy and feel free to post as often as you like and we'll try our best to help!! Good luck (((hugs)))
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Registered: 09-26-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 9:26am
Hey Heidi - thanks for the thoughts.

I actually did finally hear from him. He had to cover for his boss for the week(s). Before when he has had to do this he has informed, but this time he may not have known and was last minute. But, I think he needs time to figure out what he is doing and where I fit in. I am trying to block the negative thoughts, but sometimes they will creep in.

I emailed a reply that was calm, cool and collected; so we will see where it goes from here.