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1st weekend without him
| Fri, 11-16-2007 - 10:24am |
I've been keeping myself moving all week, I have barely sat down.
| Fri, 11-16-2007 - 10:24am |
I've been keeping myself moving all week, I have barely sat down.
I know exactly what you mean. Don't be too hard on yourself. I was in your position last Friday (see my old post "crying"). It's been 2 weeks now and time does make everything a bit better. The first weekend after our breakup was brutal for me since that Saturday would have been our 5 year anniversary (yes he broke up with me 2 days before our anniversary). Mutual friends kept me busy all that weekend but come last week I had absolutely no plans on Friday night. Like you I wanted to have my friends rearrange their plans for me. However, since they were all mutual friends I figured the whole situation was uncomfortable for them. While I sat at home crying my eyes out last Friday night, I found out he took a trip out of town and partied all weekend (funny how i always asked him to take that trip with me and he never did and the first week after our break up he goes with his best friend). So, completely out of character for me, I spontaneously decided to hit up an old friend and went to a charity event with her. I met new people who incidentally kept me occupied all weekend long. I'm actually hanging out with my new friends all this weekend as well. Though I do not know how my Holiday weekend will be next week, I'm okay with that.
My point is going to things alone and having an empty schedule will get easier. Though I can't really talk since it's been only 2 weeks I have to say that you will discover things about yourself that you never knew before. I always felt shy and quiet and often hid behind my ex. It's somewhat empowering to go off on your own and meet new people. I have to admit I "faked" having fun that first weekend by myself, and a bit last weekend as well. However, after awhile I realized I wasn't really faking it anymore. I was actually having a good time. So have fun this weekend and smile a lot =) It'll make you feel a lot better.
Edited 11/16/2007 10:46 am ET by ming_88
Hi i_refuse_to_break,
Going alone to the movies is great. I've been doing it most of this year.