2 1/2 months later and still!

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Registered: 05-19-2006
2 1/2 months later and still!
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 2:32pm
It's been over 2 months since He broke up with me, a long two 1/2 months to say the least. I've done the NC thing, only speaking with him if I happen to run into him around campus. It was a hard breakup after a year 1/2 relationship and basically out of nowhere. I'm in the process of moving and was packing up some of my stuff when i came across a hat of his that he wore often. Rather than throwing it away I emailed him to see if he wanted it back. Well he read the email but didnt have the decency to even respond and let meknow if he wanted it back. This confuses and frustrates me. I never asked to talk or see him, just asked where he would want it sent or given too. I dont understand why its so hard to respond, yes i'd like it back please mail it to me or give it to a friend, or no you can toss it???? Any thoughts on why someone would ignore you so completely after a great relationship and he even told me he still wantedto be friends! I never asked for him back, I never called him or anything after he broke up with me. I just let him go and now he can't even give me this respect. OK maybe Im angry!
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Registered: 06-06-2003
Mon, 05-22-2006 - 2:48pm
IMO, his non-reply WAS his reply to the question. I think maybe his way of moving on involved not communicating with you. After all this time, if you run across things that belonged to him, they're not important to him or he would've contacted YOU to get them back, so just chuck 'em or give 'em away, etc. Be happy in the knowledge that he's a part of your past, and not the present.
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 5:53pm

Well, see, now you understand why breaking no contact isn't such a good idea...this has really thrown you for a loop! But what's done is done...throw the hat away, and learn from this.

People aren't always sincere when they say they want to be friends after a breakup, either...so that's another lesson to learn. It's often said out of guilt and a desire to not be seen as the "bad guy".

Let this go...this incident will fade and you'll be back on your way to getting over him. I would also recommend that you merely nod hello (rather than speaking to him) when you see him on campus.

Sheri