2 months NC over - Now what?

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Registered: 03-28-2006
2 months NC over - Now what?
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Sun, 10-14-2007 - 2:03am

My first love and I broke up about 6 months ago.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 10:26am

....."how do I "suddenly" do this when we've been keeping contact b/c we both feel that we can now be friends again. I don't want to come out and say that I still like him and so we need some time off, because...well, let's face it, a girl's gotta keep her pride sometimes.".....

Well, that's the thing, you don't BOTH feel that you can be friends again now. I completely understand what you're saying here, and the only thing I can tell you at this point is to NOT tell him how you're feeling.

Say you have the conversation where you say, "I can't talk to you, I thought I could, but I realize now I can't because I still have feelings for you," and he says (gulp), "I don't feel the same." AGH!!! So don't do it, unless you're completely prepared to pack it in and move completely off if he does give you that answer. Because that's what you'll have to do, tail between legs and all.

Instead, simply put more focus back on your life. Don't call him, let him call you. He will when he realizes he hasn't heard from you. Add new activities for yourself or focus even more on the ones you do have, but I'd suggest adding at least one new thing. Drill yourself in your workouts and if you're not doing something active, what are you waiting for? Accept other people's invitations first, don't "keep a day open" for him (yes, I see you hiding), don't invite him or call him wen you see/think/hear something he'd be interested in.

This will do two things: 1. It'll get your mind off him and on you, which will help you move on and get fabulous, and 2. it may well could rekindle some interest on his part. So no matter what, you'll be in a much better position than you are now.

Good luck!

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:26am

do what guys do.


"i'm really busy right now, how about let's catch up when things slow down?"