2 questions

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Registered: 03-07-2007
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 1:08pm

#1.) Do you guys have dreams about your ex? I'm about 90% fine during the day, but I don't sleep. I wake up around 2 or 3 every morning and have these awful half-concious dreams, so I'm awake enough to remember, but too asleep to control them. It's incredibly depressing. It's the 2 of us in some memory of a perfect night together, or a fantasy of some night in the future which ofcourse will never be. Sometimes it's me wathcing him move on, and other times it's him confessing that he never really cared. Does anyone else get this? I don't know what to do or how to stop it. I finally wake up already crying.

#2.) Should I remain friends with his best friends girlfriend? We all started dating around the same time and became pretty close, but it's depressing when she tells me all about her cute dates with her bf, and I hate hearing about parties they went to ebcause I know my ex was there, and I just don't want to think about him. I don't have a ton of friends to begin with (lost touch with everyone when the ex and got together), so getting rid of one seems rash. Also, should I delete from my Myspace/Facebook/IM all of his friends I became friends with? I was surfing through one of their's pics and saw one that I KNOW was taken in my ex's car. I could saw I'll just resist the tempation to look, but we all know I won't. But I'm afraid if I delete everyone they'll realize how upset I truly was by all of this or it will just seem immature. What do you guys think?

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Registered: 07-31-2007
In reply to: gal_astoria
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 1:17pm

#1) Well funny you say that because last night I woke up at 4 in the morning bc I have a nightmare about my ex and woke up crying. (We have been broken up since June 4 but have basically spoken in some form once a week)

#2) When he and I broke up I would absolutely stalk his facebook and Myspace. He really doesnt use AIM. During the first week I noticed he untagged himself in a ton of pics of me and him and I called him and cried for an hour. He said it was bc everyday when he looks at them it made it so much harder to get over me. Then he decided to deleted his facebook and myspace all together. IT COMPLETELY HELPED. Even though I wanted to know what he was doing, who he was talking to etc. I couldnt and that really did make me less crazy.

I actually became pretty close with a few of his guy friends when he and I were dating. I have still talked to them a bit (mostly about him) but I realize I definitely have to stop. I think staying in touch just to see how they are doing is okay but bringing up the ex cannot happen...

So believe me there are alot of people feeling the same way

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: gal_astoria
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 3:03pm

Dreaming of your ex is normal.... doesn't mean it's him literally.