2 weeks down..how many more to go? :(

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Registered: 07-14-2007
2 weeks down..how many more to go? :(
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Sat, 07-28-2007 - 11:54am
its been two weeks since the breakup...TWO weeks that feel like a year...really, i cant even explain it, but i feel like ive been feeling this miserable for WAY longer then two weeks. what does this mean?? that a few more months will feel like a few years of being miserable? im not sure if i can handle this anymore. days are soo slow, im always sad, miserable, miss him. oh man...if its only been two weeks, i cant even imagine how much longer it will take to feel better. im not excited about the future-- i can tell you guys that much :(
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 2:58pm

Hi mstullips,


What are you doing for yourself?

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Registered: 07-27-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 3:18pm

Hi...

I can't really offer advice, per se, because I'm in the exact same situation, but I'm just here to commiserate. It's been 4 days since my boyfriend broke up with me and I can't even remember a time when I didn't feel this horrible. I don't know what to say because I hope things get easier for us as time goes on, but I wouldn't be surprised if it didn't.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 4:55pm

I was reading Delphine Hirsh's book a few weeks back..and she said something pretty interesting...

"the experience of heartbreak was a little like having a very bad cold. Once I felt better it was difficult to really remember how miserable I had once felt"

Things WILL get easier with time, but I'm not really in the position to offer advice because I can barely remember what it felt like when I got dumped last month. But I read the boards lots. Watched the days hoping I was in a bad dream. I read the house analogy on breaking up. I can't find the actual post, but I will look tonight. But it WILL get better. Promise.

Cheers

Susanna

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 10-11-2006
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 8:27pm

well, I know EXACTLY what you're going through right now. my boyfriend also broke up w/me just yesterday. and he did it through a text message...lovely isn't it? this is a guy I was with for about a year. I was so devastated and of course I'm still very sad and hurt. maybe I'm not the best at giving advice, so pretty much what I can tell you is to stay strong and don't let him get the best of you. stay super buisy...by working, hanging out w/friends, exercising, pampering yourself. and you'll see that as the days go by, slowly, but surely you'll find yourself thinking less and less about him. but, of course, it'll take some time. just try to make the most out of every day and try not to think about the future in a broad spectrum cuz then it'll seem like eternity. cry and weep as much as you want now (just like I'm doing!). it's good that you let it all out now. but, trust me, there will come a day were you'll feel silly about all the tears you shed for that guy. he was a jerk and obviously you can do better. you'll actually laugh at yourself! so, just hang in there and remember that TIME is the only cure. and keep your days packed w/stuff to do. take care and don't loose faith:-)

Paloma

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 8:40pm

TEXT MESSAGE? Jesus..and I thought my ex had no integrity. 1.5 years and I got mine through Email. On the bright side, I guess I was one step up.

There were times I wanted to scream at him when I got that email about how little respect I had for him that he couldn't tell me to my FACE that we were over.

ooh and I found it. Acknowlegement to whatever wise person wrote this. Helped me through a hard time.

**

Think of your relationship like a big house that has been demolished. What do you do next? You can't live in the house any more! So you decide to clear up the mess (emotion), brick by brick, it takes a bit of time, but you liked living in that big house so you guess it's worth the effort. Then there's a big hole in the ground that needs to be filled up again. You start this process by making new friends who are happy to help you rebuild your new big house, so it's bigger and better than it was before.

Your ex has decided that he's going to build on top of all the rubble (denial), he/she can't be bothered to take time out to clear up all the mess. So off he/she goes, building on top of the old house. He/She acknowledges that the structure is a little wobbly but he/she says that it will do for him right now.

The storm hits. Guess whose house is still standing?

Your house is built on a solid foundation. His/Her house is a big fake "paper house", yours a big strong stone structure. Now tell me who's going to have the better future? It's up to you to decide.

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 10:15pm

Dear Tullips,

Two weeks is not very long even though it seems forever. It took me five months just to stop crying when I went through my last breakup. Take it an hour at a time. Don't expect to heal so soon, although it would be nice. I wish I had the magic words to make it all better (I'd say them to myself too). In two more weeks you will feel a little better. Trust me you will.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 10:51pm
no :( i cant make myself do anything. nothing seems to cheer me up, so i dont even bother trying anymore :(