in 2 yr relationship, like someone else

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Registered: 07-21-2007
in 2 yr relationship, like someone else
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 12:01pm
So i've been with my guy for almost 2 yrs and lately he's had some major jealousy issues which has sort of driven me away and made me not really want to be in a relationship anymore, thats how bad it's been, I couldn't go on msn, have my own e-mail account or hang out with my friends, even have a girls night out. To top it off Iam interested in someone else,who my boyfriend also knows and is friends with, this guy knows im into him and he seems into me. Iam completely lost here, i don't know whether to stay with my boyfriend or just break things off, I really feel I'd be happier being single, but if I break up with him and then realise it was a mistake, theres no going back because he'd move back to Newfoundland.Any advice?

Hollie

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Registered: 10-21-2003
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:18pm
I can understand the reluctance you have, being with someone for two years is a longtime and on some level you get comfortable. I can relate, that after being with someone for over 4 years, you want what you had in the beginning, but when things begin to change like his jealousy and you liking someone else, you have to ask yourself a few questions? The first being do you want to fix whats going on between the two of you now ? Ask whats causing his jealousy and your attraction to the other person? And why you feel that you would regret leaving you current boyfriend? I can understand how hard these questions can be but, do you want to feel respected, loved, be as good as you two could ever be or find it with someone else. If you think things can get better and your both willing to work on things then its worth asking some of these questions. Though if you don't think that you want what you have with you boyfriend now, then maybe its time to leave, the only person who can answer that is you. Maybe sit down and write what your feeling out, seeing out on paper can help.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 12:21pm

Hi Pink,


Here's your previous post:


don't want to crush him, any advice?