4 months and...

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Registered: 05-30-2004
4 months and...
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Sat, 09-04-2004 - 5:07pm
Well, it's been four months since he broke up with me and I am still here. I have to admit that there were many times I wished that I was dead so that the gut-renching pain would stop. That I wouldn't wake up or go to sleep crying from missing him so much. Now those type of days are few and far in between. I don't think of him nearly as much and am not as certain that I would take him back. That doesn't mean I don't think of him or wonder what he is doing. And I do wish that things were different. I'm back in the dating game and know that one day I will meet the man of my dreams. I just am more cautious than before. I don't think I will be able to survive another painful break up but if it does happen I know that I can always post here and find friends willing to listen. What I am trying to say to all of you out there, it is true that time does heal. Eventually you do move on and that the prospect of dating again seems less daunting. I could never have gotten through all of this without all of your support and help. We are all truly lucky to have each other. Thank you all so very much.
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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 6:46pm
Thats awesome!!! I'm approaching the 4 month mark myself.. in two days as a matter of fact.... In some ways, I cant believe how quickly the time has gone. Summer is always my favorite season, but this year it feels like I didnt enjoy it because I was wallowing in the post breakup stress. And now its September!

Like you, at first I was crying myself to sleep, or waking up in tears. I got to experience the best diet ever (breakup diet), and then slowly but surely I got back on my feet.

Time does do wonders, but so does the support of family and friends. I started to feel for a while that maybe my friends and fam were tired of hearing about my issues, etc.. about the break up, but they kept, and still do reassure me that they love me, and whenever I need to talk, they're there.

Last night, I went out with a few friends, and at the end of the night, one of my friends husbands looked at me and said "Ya know, we need to find you a good guy.." I just smiled, and said "In due time..".. I'm out there in the dating world, and like you said, I'm super cautious too. I dont want to get burned again...

Good luck to you! Stay strong...

Love and light,

Di

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 3:35pm
Hi, I just wanted to tell you that your post really gave me strength. I am two weeks into my break up (of 2 years) and it is terribly painful. I just want the pain to go away!! At this time it seems I will never love again, and I will never get over him. But I know that everyone has gone through this at some point and I will survive. Thanks for the words of encourgement...every little thing helps.

D