6 year relationship

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Registered: 06-17-2004
6 year relationship
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 12:19pm
My boyfriend and I of 6 years have broken up and he has moved out. He was my everything. It was a mutual decision (won't go into long details). I thought I would be alright with it. Given its only been since Saturday (his move out date), I have cried more than I have cried in my life. I called him Monday regrading some stuff and I don't plan on calling again. I just miss him terribly. How long am I going to hurt. I hate feeling like this. I can't even write without crying. Its not that I'm lonely, but I want to make sure I made the right decision. I don't know. Just wanted to let this out.
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Registered: 09-06-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 12:35pm

i'm so sorry for your pain right now. it really is so sad when relationships come to an end, especially when you've spent so many years with that person. i wish i could tell you how long this horrible feeling will last, but no one can tell you that. everyone's issues/and healing journey is different and there's no way of telling how long it will last. it's a long scary road ahead but at the same time there so much to learn and discover about yourself(i know you don't want to hear this), that in those moments of realization...there's no pain, there actually is some joy...not yet ofcourse, it's too soon. and i wish i could tell you you made the right decision, but again, no one can know or figure that out, only you can. i know how you feel though, i was with my ex for 4 years and i broke up with him (my own issues/stuff, not him), and when he moved out(i was moving too, but he left a few days before me), it was like a piece of me was gone. what once felt like home, felt cold and empty and scary. just thinking back gives me chills and brings tears to my eyes..it's horrible i know. hang in there. i too, wondered, and still wonder at times(not as much) if i made the right decision. the regrets and the "what if's" drove me crazy, and i don't know if there's a way NOT to feel that, but i know that there is a way to get through that feeling, to work through it...you just have to find what works for you.

again, sorry for your pain. you will be in my prayers....take care.

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Registered: 12-10-2005
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 6:37pm
My guy moved out on Saturday too, my grandfather's birthday that we planned on attending together. He hadn't planned on telling me, was just going to move and have me figure it out. We've been together for 8 years. We've separated before and always got back together. I don't want to do that again. I'm tired of this roller coaster but I'm not sure how to get off.