7 years, 2 kids, & its all over!

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Registered: 08-06-2011
7 years, 2 kids, & its all over!
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Fri, 08-12-2011 - 12:52am

Hello everyone,

After being with my boyfriend since the age of 18, we have now broken things off for good!

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 08-12-2011 - 1:31am
In time you will see that you are stronger than you think. This is all new and scary just because it is new. You will thrive without him and so will your daughters. This relationship was toxic to your kids and you just need time to adjust to your new life. And believe me you will sooner than you think.
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Registered: 08-09-2011
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 12:04am
I'm sorry, but I need things spelled out for me. Your ex-BF is the father of your daughters?
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Registered: 08-09-2011
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 5:34am
You should read this book http://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Called-Breakup-Because-Broken/dp/0007215592
I am going through a really bad break-up at the moment and this book is a really good eye-opener, it gives you insight into things you are too blinded to see now.
I hate it when people tell you 'you deserve better, get over it'...it's not as easy to get over the person you thought to be the love of your life, especially when kids are involved. And you spent so long loving that person, are you supposed to just forget about all that? It hurts and it sucks and there's no need to sugar coat it. You're allowed to be hurt and to talk about it, don't suppress your emotions. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here, I know how much it hurts.
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Registered: 08-06-2011
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 6:55pm
Thank you for your kind words Peaceyma! I appreciate your advice :)

Yes, he is the father of my two daughters.
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Registered: 08-06-2011
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 7:02pm
To: Fallentopieces

I thank youk very much for your time and all the nice things you said. I will definitely check out the link you sent me in hopes that it will help me through this difficult time.

Thank you again!
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Registered: 08-09-2011
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 7:32pm

Hmm... he sounds like an a-hole then.

Also, I'd bet that if he found out that you strove to stand tall on your own two feet, and started seeing someone new, (and BETTER than him) he'd lose his frickin' mind and want you back...

Not suggesting that you find someone else to make him feel that way.. I'm just anticipating his reaction.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 9:51am

I know it doesn't feel like it, but everything you are experiencing emotionally is completely normal and justified. I can't imagine being in your situation and not having any questions, or anxiety, or fears. I think your two daughters are a great reason for you to keep on going. Sometimes we do not have long-term answers and the best we can do is wake up in the morning. The pain will be very difficult to fight through but you will do it, whether you are trying to or not. Surviving is easy enough, just make sure you eat and sleep once in a while. Maybe all you need to do is survive, and make day-to-day decisions, and the rest will come with time...